WARNING: "Adult" language, although not necessary, will be used a lot in this post.
While I was taking a dump, I just realized that my presence in the internet is becoming large that I am now running the risk of being exposed to one of its dark sides: the snide comments and personal attacks.
These keyboard warriors, or maybe trolls, could be anywhere - lurking and waiting for the moment to pounce you with their filthy language and wild insults. If you aren't smart enough, you'd fall victim to their relentless barking, take the bait and latch yourself into the perpetrator's mouth, and you become emotionally consumed before you even know it. Well, if I didn't know better I would have gladly fed them by responding to their audacity - which is often fueled by the power vested upon by their anonymity - to give meaning to their life even if it sounds pathetic. But I realized I just ran out of fucks to give.
But I won't be talking about keyboard warriors or trolls here. They've already gotten too much fucks from my previous paragraph alone. However, I'm here to talk about the fine, elegant, and noble art of not giving a fuck. Because not giving a fuck is like bacon, it makes your life better.
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| Damn. I simply love ideas coming from the toilet. |
Why should you not give a fuck?
You see, all our lives, we have devoted every waking hour caring far too much how to please other people, worrying if we look cool enough for them starting from the clothes we wear.
But here's the thing you must understand: no matter who you are, where you're from, or what you say or do, people will judge, criticize, or hate you. Nobody is an exception to that. Unless you're a cat because nobody gives a fuck about licking your own ass.
As emotional beings, our emotions don't really fall under our direct control. Yes, we can feel bad about it. We're not immune to that. And we shouldn't be. But we know what's happening. And as rational beings, we can react or decide whether to indulge or feed our attacker's fantasies of putting us down or not. We have a fuckin choice here.
Should you wrap yourself miserably in other people's bullshit? Or should you just freeze people out by actually not giving a fuck?
How to actually not give a fuck.
Simple. You just have to accept yourself. "Not giving a fuck" in modern English translates to, "I accept myself." You know who you are. You know what you want. The opinion of other people about you will not really matter. Because frankly, my dear, the universe doesn't give a fuck about the fuck it has given you. So why should you give a fuck?
When you give a fuck, make sure it's worth it.
Fucks are given even in situations that don't deserve it. Fandoms, for example. Tweet something bad about a celebrity, and devoted fans from the pits of Hades will be there to fight eye for an eye, then all hell breaks loose. Or ever saw someone got infuriated just because of a misspelled name on the coffee cup? Exactly. Fuck those fucks given. You see, that's how life screws us up us, when we choose to give a fuck at every petty little thing we can actually just shrug off.
Be selective to what and who you give your fucks to. Give a fuck to what really matters in your life like family, friends, or a career. And if there's one most important person that you should give a fuck to, that would be yourself. So do yourself a favor and stop offending yourself and be the fuckin person you want to be and start not giving a fuck about what others think (without being an asshole, okay?). So do whatever the fuck you want with your life and just die fuckin happy.
P.S. I don't even know what P.S. means, but I don't give a fuck. Anyway, I realize the profanity of language in this post is damn too high. But as long as I made my point clear, then who gives a fuck?
37 Comments
Love it! Not giving a fuck is a skill. I am still learning it but I'll get there.
ReplyDeleteSame here. I still have to master the art of not giving a fuck yet but I'm getting there.
DeleteEven though I am struggling with low self-esteem, I am also learning how to not give a fuck. I am starting to accept the way I am and give a gral if people accept me or no. It is not easy. I think as social individuals we need and like people acceptance but I am not willing to pay the high price. I want to be happy and I know by not allowing others to put me down I will become and stay happy.
ReplyDeleteYeah, it's not easy. But when you get the hang of it, none of those social validations or others' opinions would really matter. Be happy and stay happy. :)
DeleteOh how I love this post!!! The less you care, the happier you will be!
ReplyDeleteYep, that's true! Thanks!
DeleteI love this! Everything is just so fucking true. It's true that you are happier when you start not giving a care about what people think about you.
ReplyDeleteI actually only care about what others think about me when that person really matters to me. But everyone else, just screw them. Haha. :)
DeletePakshit this.... Ahahaha... Peace Sar.ü
ReplyDeleteHahaha. :P
Delete"PS I don't even know what PS means" HAHAHAHA!
ReplyDeleteI was thinking to myself yesterday "oh wow I could start getting hate comments too but do I care? Nope. More traffic for me."
Haha. I just learned about wha PS means after posting this. When you get hate comments, you'll probably love and loathe it.
DeleteThis line had me roaring: "...not giving a fuck is like bacon, it makes your life better." Excellent post!
ReplyDeleteThank you! ^_^
DeleteI totally agree with you! :) That´s something I am still learning, not to give a fuck to others opinion and to be just me and happy ;) Great post! xoxo
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Yep, stay happy! ^_^
DeleteI am literally laughing out loud at this!!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I made somebody laugh today. :D
DeleteI really agree with your perspective! I found that whenever I care and I actually shouldn't, the Work by Byron Katie helps me stop caring, it was a huge relief to realize I just question my thought and it goes poof! :)
ReplyDeleteYeah. We should only care for things that really matter. :)
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ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteThis is a great post full of much needed reminders. The trolls, or keyboard warriors have made me hesitate every single time I press publish on a post, even when what I write about isn't controversial. But you are right, best not to give a fuck. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI've had my share of reluctance to publish my post, too. But you'll get over it. Just be yourself.
DeleteWow! loved reading every bit of it!!
ReplyDeleteThank you! ^_^
DeleteHahaha. Best thing I've read today so far. Kataw-anan jud ka sarj. Ug bacon napud? Hahaha
ReplyDeleteOf course! Bacon is the best thing that happened to me, next to my awesomeness. Haha! :P
DeleteFinally someone said it. It's better to not give a f*ck at all, especially when it comes to people who are just trolling you. The more you care the more they fight back, so just sit back and ignore the sick comments.
ReplyDeleteLOL. I never thought you're capable of writing this. I barely (or never?) hear you speak bad words. Pero ayus sarj, katawanan bitaw ni. One of you gold pieces to date. Hahaha!!!
ReplyDeleteI still don't. But I think I cuss a lot in this blog. Haha.
DeleteHahahaha I agree with you sister! "No matter who you are, where you're from, or what you say or do, people will judge, criticize, or hate you." We cannot please everybody. Just be yourself and be happy hahaha :)
ReplyDeleteSometimes no matter how we try, we are also affected but I agree that we should just brush it off and move on with life because we can never please everybody.
ReplyDeleteHey, Sarah! First of all, CONGRATULATIONS for winning the Bloggys 2015 Personal/Diary category! Yay! ^_^
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Keep it up, Sarah. I hope we could be friends!
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Thanks for dropping by, Cess! I'm really happy to hear when someone enjoys reading my blog. And yes, of course, we can be friends! :)
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